Have certain events in your life felt like destiny and what is this thing that we call destiny? For any event to transpire, as I am pretty sure most quantum physicists will agree, the event has to concentrate its manifestation as an expression of one outcome out of what would be perhaps, infinite potential outcomes. When you are making a decision—for the sake of simplicity, let’s choose the example of deciding what sort of sandwich you want for lunch from a sandwich shop—whatever sandwich you end up with, is just one of many potentials. For you to end up with the turkey on rye, you had to first be presented with a certain order of options—and then the very presentation of these options, whether you consciously knew it or not, had to have factored into your ultimate choice. What I mean by this is, if we are to believe in this thing that we call the butterfly effect, which conveys the understanding of the inherent interrelatedness of all things, then we have to accept that options themselves contribute to the outcome.
So then how does this play into the idea of destiny? When I give readings, I often see one of two arrangements regarding the future: either the outcome is an assortment of possibilities (two or more), in which different courses of behavior (options) will determine the unique outcome, or the outcome is only consisting of one possibility. In the former situation, the perceptual observer (you, the individual) hasn’t yet considered the options entirely in order to be set upon a certain decision (the chosen sandwich, for example) that manifests as a certain behavior (ordering said sandwich.) In the latter situation, the individual (and all involved parties) have already been influenced by all options, leading to a certain behavior that guarantees a certain result.
I’ve been given a specific image to describe here: you stand in front of your upcoming life. In reality, the entirety of it has already occurred (because time doesn’t actually exist, but that’s for another article.) However, as you perceive things, much of your life has not yet happened. You stand now in the present, and look upon a path that represents your future. To your right, and to your left, scenes, such as in a movie, are being acted out. These scenes represent all of the infinite potentials within each tiny fraction of your life. Because all of these potentials appear there, being acted out as they are, what you can infer, is that in some sense they are all happening. There is no one certain outcome in any instance of your life at all, but rather, infinite outcomes, realities, and versions of your story play out before you. They’re all happening, and therefore, they are all real. And yet, none of them, as far as your perception goes, have happened yet, and therefore, none of them are real. They exist, and yet they do not. And this, as far as my crystal ball is concerned, is the beginning of destiny.
What happens next? Where is the destiny in a sea of destinations? As you move onwards along this path that is your future, and as each blip of your future becomes your present, and then your past (to your perception, which imagines this linear nature of time), these different movie scenes are paralleled against an infinite background in your mind of choice—choices that are then made, and in true butterfly effect fashion, effect a further course of choices. Do you sip your coffee now, or five seconds from now? Do you spill some of it on your blouse because you choose to wait until the end of a paragraph in an article you are reading to sip it, and at that moment, someone honks their horn so loudly outside of your apartment that you jerk a bit? And then, do you choose to change your blouse? And if you do choose to change it, does the time that this requires cause you to be late on your way to the office, and on the subway you accidentally bump into an old friend, who offers you the choice of a job opportunity, and do you then take this opportunity? If you do, you might meet your future spouse while picking up a coffee nearby at your new job, and the two of you might have children, and then later buy a home in the suburbs! You see, your life might really begin to change, destiny might really begin to seem predestined, as your life becomes significantly impacted, by these tiny little microcosmic, seemingly innocuous choices. Look back on your life, and look upon those significant moments where you met someone very important, or something very life changing occurred: it was the little things, as much or more so than it was the big things, that etched the portrait of your existence. Certainly you worked hard for everything you have, but what made you work hard? Choices. And what about the ways in which that hard work paid off—well that too was a matter of choice. In the first case, you consciously executed your choices towards a specific goal, and in the second case, you came upon the opportunity of its realization by accident. And what’s interesting is, that goal, whether it’s a job position you hold or a spouse you married or a child you had or a novel you wrote or a degree you earned, would have never have materialized without the combining forces of these different stages and matters of choice—the conscious and subconscious choices.
Let’s go further with this, and see how it plays into the idea of destiny. Because there is not some God in the clouds moving lightning bolts until you get promoted, and we know that, and yet there is the sneaking sense of an unseen hand at certain times—in the ways in which things fall together—that seems, well, destined. What is that? Well, let’s go back to the movie scenes that stand to the left and right of the future, the movie scenes which represent all the possibilities spinning on the roulette wheel of what may come. This image summons the forces of your total self—your conscious and subconscious mind. You see, there is such thing as destiny, because there is such a thing as you. And you, being an empathic creature, being a human, being a form of consciousness, are connected to everything else, to this environment, that becomes apart of your life—what you could call destiny. Who is this “you” who I am equating with destiny? This you is your conscious and subconscious mind. The two are related into the total unity of your individual capacity, and yet they move through this life in two very different, yet interconnected ways, forming what we call destiny. Let’s begin with the most familiar mind—the conscious mind—I’m talking to the mind that is currently reading this article. This conscious mind has a lot of ideas, and a lot of inclinations. It’s like the control deck of the individual. The conscious mind tries to sort out a good plan, tries ever so hard to make sense of itself. It can only take so much at a time though, and so much of what goes on in the background (the subconscious) must be suppressed, and kept there in the shadows until it can be dealt with. Often these things which are suppressed are deep rooted fears and desires, that sort of stuff. Well, the conscious mind tries to form goals for itself, despite all of these pressures. It has to sort through the subconscious to determine what goals exist there for it to make into behaviors for you to play out. And so many of your behaviors result in outcomes you only subconsciously want to experience, and consciously would dread, while many others still are desired by both the subconscious and the conscious. The former will be often categorized later as “mistakes” and the latter will be regarded by you as “successes.” So why would your subconscious desire mistakes? Well, it wants to bring itself to your attention, it wants you to know of a particular weakness, an ache or a pain, that is residing inside of you—so it’s only choice is to bubble these pressures up until they manifest in your waking life. The successes are of course more intentional, and can’t ever happen without the mistakes. So in truth, your subconscious and conscious really want the same thing, it’s just that while your subconscious mind seeks out the learning process, your conscious mind often resents it. This resentment gets fed back into the ranks of the subconscious, and the whole process starts all over. And this keeps going, until you’re Buddha or Jesus (just kidding, sort of.)
At any rate, what we’re beginning to see at this point is that you have two decision makers operating here: the conscious and subconscious. The conscious is very direct. It realizes a desire for an education, for example, and it prompts you to apply for a scholarship you saw. The subconscious is indirect: it realizes a desire for an education, and it prompts you to take a different route to work so that you notice an advertisement for that scholarship you end up applying for. Notice you made two choices here, that were both intended to result in a specific outcome, but only one of these choices revealed its motives, and this was the choice made by the conscious mind.
The subconscious mind is indirect because it is of a feminine, yin nature, while the conscious is direct because it is of a masculine, yang nature. While we’re on the subject of investigating destiny, let’s take a moment to think about these different energies that approach fate in two distinct, yet parallel ways: that is, masculine and feminine. So what is feminine, and what is masculine? It’s a matter of energy. The subconscious mind is energetically composed of feminine: that is, she is soft, underneath, receiving, intuiting, emotional, selfless and communicative. The conscious self is masculine: he is defined, exposed, projecting, rationalizing, logical, ego-oriented and active. In this way, each of us operates as both male and female, from an energetic standpoint. So, how does this play into destiny?
Let’s think about the mechanics here. The subconscious and the conscious, while distinct, form one total being. Who is that? The total—the sum, the whole. The total is the whisper on your shoulder, that says very gently, while you wrestle with the shadows, while you play in the soft music and movement, and while you wonder and labor over what it all means, “I know, and you are being watched over by me. Don’t worry, I have a plan.” Now, even if you are of a very skeptical nature, I suspect you have at one time or another had this sense. You can call it made up, but I don’t think it is. I think, wherever we hear ourselves, there is a voice, and whatever it says, comes from a perception in you, and like all of your perceptions, it holds its rightful place in reality. Only this voice is the combining of all of the perceptions in you—this voice is your mega voice—the voice of the total self—the higher self. On some other level, at some other vibration, and in another dimension superseding that which you are immediately aware of, resides the combined essence of subconscious and conscious—the soul, the higher self, or whatever you want to call it. This being, who is seeing your life in its entirety, laid out quite flat, like a well-written comic-book, understands the way in which you, as the heroine, perceive that the left end of the page is happening before the right end. Yet from the higher self’s view, it’s all right there already—it’s all happened, to the higher self. To the higher self, this book has been written, and it only hasn’t happened from the heroine’s perspective. But the higher self feels that too—because she understands the heroine’s perspective (your perspective), and she understands that you do not see it all the way that she does.
You see, the higher self is observing everything, right? She is the observer: observing you, from your different vantages, as a conscious and subconsciously arranged being. And she is you—without her, reading your life in that comic, you simple aren’t here. She brings you to life, she breathes right through you—and here you are. She is the artist, she puts the story on your page. She writes your book—your destiny. But how? Now, this is where the subconscious and conscious really work together. Remember that the subconscious is feminine—intuiting, receiving and what not? Well, the subconscious is like the ocean, and the higher self is like the moon, guiding her tides. The subconscious is psychic, because she is most profoundly in touch with the higher self, being that she is of a hidden, receiving nature. Your subconscious is like your portal to all things other than here—living between these worlds, and translating from one darkness to one light, from one soul to one mind. She receives the tidal directions from the higher self, and lets the turbulence thus ripple so beautifully in her eternal underneathness. Her waves rise up tremendously or subtly, into the air above the sea—and the air, which is of a mental consistency, forms the masculine, conscious mind. The air projects—he blows and carries and moves into the material—he acts out the story that has been written. Your subconscious is psychic, and so she receives, she channels and listens—she hears it all. Remember the scholarship example earlier? Who made you interested in that education in the first place? You might think it was your own will. And it was, but this will came from a subconscious place. It was arranged so that you would find yourself here, as this person is who is interested in education and scholarships, or whatever it is you are interested in. And this is destiny.
While this subject matter is obviously (I repeat, obviously) far too expansive to ever cover in a series of a thousand books, let alone an article, before I go, I will briefly go over the million dollar question, which we will further get into in a future post: what can we do about destiny, if it is after all, destiny? The answer is, nothing, and yet everything.
Ever notice that sometimes it feels like you’re fighting your own story, your own life, or yourself? That’s because you are. It’s a very human thing to do that. What we often do, because of our egos (which we do need, but that’s another story), is we attempt to write ourselves off the page. Now this can’t really be done, but it sort of can. And when we do it, we’re defying the universe. It’s a bit like bringing the dead back to life—it just never quite works out (listen up John Snow, you know nothing.) Kindly excusing the unnecessary Game of Thrones reference (thank you) you know what I mean. We can get away from that, if we will just give into it. The more we become the whole, and the less we become the part, the more things will go our way, the more life will fall into place. It’s a matter of self-unification, it’s a matter of reaching closer into the utterly mysterious depths of the higher self, by bringing together the conscious and subconscious. The closer we get to the whole, the further we are from the part, and being further away from the part, and closer to the whole, puts us into direct contact and awareness with our true power. From the perspective of the whole, we can begin to see the psychic material that makes the concrete material of this physical experience. We can then begin to impose our own will, and projections upon this material, and in effect change the course of our lives. Empathic intelligence allows us to do just this, because it is through empathy that we can connect all of our different selves together, and more closely become aware of the whole self, or the higher self. From there we can move and shift the psychic energy of our lives. Using the Empathic Healing Method, I do something like this with my clients, and you can read more about it here if you are interested. Or wait for my next post, in which I will cover this aspect of destiny in greater detail.
Until next time…thank you for reading, Empaths!